So, I put together some little suggestions that may be of service, based on my current experience and understanding.
- Talk: Speak from the heart, spill the beans, let the cat out of the bag, tell the whole story. Find someone who will genuinely listen. Let your heart, emotions and intuitions guide your story. At first it will be all about you and your woes, but after time, you will start to remember yourself and all the things that interest you and inspire you. You will begin to talk about plans and desires. You won't chase them right away, but people will have a better idea how to get you out of the shell.
- Think: Know who you are. Is the behaviour people are seeing in you authentically yours? Would you describe yourself as someone who does that? Or someone who dislikes that? Recognize the difference between what you say you do, what you think you would like to do, and what you actually do.
- Act: Uplift those who help you out. Do something for others if they do things for you. Not tit for tat, just reciprocate. Support systems are not equal but they are mutually beneficial and sustainably so. Don't worry so much about getting it right in the past, the past is gone, start now and move forward from what you can do now.
- Connect: Tune in to the source of your inspiration, for me it's art; poetry, drawing, and crafts for the most part (and I can talk at length about the benefits of experimenting with creations that allow you to self-express when words are blocked or censored or interfered with) Find art supplies wherever you can - even if it's picking up leaves and sticks in the park. Just play around with what gets your point across to those with the senses to notice. I also like tuning in to that inner Source energy, through chakra meditations. It is a totally rewarding way to check up on yourself.
- Share information freely and pay attention to what is handed to you: Don't scroll past an article if it's title resonates or the person who shared it is someone who you are curious about knowing better. People are connecting in all kinds of ways. Some of them are probably putting it out there for you not knowing it's you it's for.
- Walk the talk. Practice. Experiment. Do what you need to do until something works. Keep going. Put your energy into cultivating the motivations and inspirations within yourself to do what matters to you, and follow your values as guides. Allow yourself permission to do what is important to you.
- Feel: Don't numb out. Recognize where you are numbing out and explore that territory. Cry. Laugh hysterically. Punch things that don't break. Scream. Shake. Orgasm. Dance. Be present and allow yourself the sensuality of any emotional outburst.
- Don't get stuck in patterns that don't serve you. Question yourself when something bothers you in another person - are you projecting? Are you behaving in that way and not seeing it? Chances are, the thing you don't like is what bothers you about something within yourself. Explore yourself regularly.
- Recognize the way up is down. Rock bottom comes before you level up. go to the underworld with intention. Do the work. Fight your shadow and then become allies. Honour your ancestors and feed them. Ask them for advice. Talk to them. Ask them what needs healing. They know, they gave most of it to you. Pay attention to what issues ran in your family that people just assume is part of being human if they were raised the same way as you. Not everyone's normal is everyone's normal. You can ascend if you do the work.
Thank you.
Blessings.
♥ Jacki